Something Much Better...

Today I want to talk about relationships and premature love today. My favorite book that happens to be on relationships, I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris, really shaped my view and mindset on dating, so a lot of what I say will be based out of his book. To me, premature love to me was okay and normal. Well, it's normal to have those feelings, but being in relationships, whether dating or "having a guy," really isn't okay, but it's not a sin either. The Bible never clearly states: No dating. But, in chapter 8, verse 4b of Song of Solomon, it does say this: "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." So, basically, don't mess around with love until the right time comes. Sure, there are always those special people who actually do find their life long spouse in high school, but come on, how often does that really happen? I truly think each Christian girl knows the better way, but we tend to talk ourselves around it. "But I think he's the one." "But this is different..." But is it really? I've thought that before... But it's always come out as heartbreak. I was so sick and tired of it after a couple times. I was tired of wrestling with myself. I knew the right way, but... but... We all do it! It's so hard not too! But we have got to ask ourselves and answer honestly a few questions. Why am I doing this? Am I being selfish? Do I truly think that this will last? We all know the right answers to those questions deep, deep down in our heart. But without the guy, we feel empty and alone, don't we? Well, that's why we must fill that special space in our hearts with Jesus. Letting him decide when the right guy comes along to fill that space He's created for us. I want to end this with a story Josh starts his book with. He tells the story of a girl named Anna. Anna had a dream that it was her wedding day. She and her husband soon to be were kneeling at the altar. In the middle of the ceremony, girl after girl starts to line up beside David. Anna whispers, asking David, "Is this a joke?" David replies, saying he is sorry, and that what is left of his heart is hers. I don't want to be the person that has guy after guy trailing behind me on my wedding day. I want to be pure and ready for my man on that special day. Sure, I've made mistakes. But I've stopped in my tracks, ask Jesus for forgiveness, and asked Him to make my heart whole again. I want every single part of my heart to be there for my future husband, and I pray that he is saving his heart for me too. I hope this has made you think about how you view premature love and relationships. We are strong ladies. We have Jesus to fill that void. It won't mean we won't desire to have a special guy in our lives right now, but that should turn us back to Jesus, asking Him to help us have the right mindset and wait until the right time.

My favorite quote comes from the introduction of Josh's book. He says: "Dating is like fast-food restaurants- it's not wrong to eat there, but there is something much better available."

Much, much love, Brittany(: